So as usual I’m a little late to the party. I do however have a good excuse, but I promise not to boar you with it….unless you ask! :o) The Frugal Fincon Fiesta was started by Deb as a way for us personal finance bloggers who are to
poor, cheap, frugal to head on down the financial Mardi Gras aka FinCon.
For those of you who aren’t “in the know” Frugal FinCon Fiesta is a three day link up party where you can ask me and the other bloggers participating anything! I’m an open book (within reason, I am a mother and this is the internet!) If your interested in joining the party you can link up over at Debs Debt. Also if you are a non blogging buddy and you just want to stop by and ask a question or just wave from the safety of the side line I would love to hear from you too!
To get the party started here are a few little tidbits about yours truly.
1. I took accounting….and hated it!
2. I’m an introvert, and married an introvert. Our sons however don’t have a shy bone in their bodies! Go figure.
3. I use the word “interesting” way more than I should.
4. My eyes change color on their own.
I wanted to take a moment and thank everyone who has stopped by today! It looks like there are a lot of fun questions here so let’s get started!
Friday Night Update:
Jean at NearlyRetired asks, ” What was your favorite subject in college”?
Answer: This is going to be an easy one. English. I loved it, and still do. I took every English class available in high school. I was so mad when I was a SR in high school with one semester to go and I had no more English classes available for me to take. In stead I was forced to take Jewelry 101 and felt that it was a complete waste of my time. Although in the end I did make a couple of cool pieces, and it still have them.
When I went onto college I again took every English class available and loved it.
Kara from The Daily Whisk asked, “What state do you live in? Do you like it there?
Answer: I live in Michigan. I’m happy where I am because my children are close to their grandparents, my husband is happy and that makes me happy. However, I have always wanted to live somewhere where I could look out my front window and see the mountins.
Brian from DebtDiscipline asks, “What is the toughest part of living within a budget?”
Answer: Honestly, it is sticking to the plan. There are times when I want to go out and spend but, I have to remember there is a reason we live on a budget and that is so I can stay home with my boys.
Kirsten from Indebted And In Debt asks, “So, you hated accounting… What was your favorite subject instead?”
Answer: I loved English, and still do. I think that is why a lot of my papers come off more “school report” vs having my personality in it. My second was photography.
Femme from Femmefrugality asks, “…What was your favorite thing about school? Not the class but the lifestyle.”
Answer: thinking about how to answer this question brought up a lot of memories I hadn’t thought about in the a long time. My last two years of high school I was very into being a neo-hippy. I only wore vintage clothing, I volunteered a lot, relied on natural remedies (I still do that a lot), etc. I learned Reiki, and after high school became a medical massage therapist. In today’s terms I guess I would be similar to a hipster in many ways. I also loved having out at the local coffee house near the college campus.
Brooke from pftwins asks, “What was the tipping point for when and your husband decided to really tackle your debt? Why did you decide to start the blog?”
Answer: We knew from the beginning that living on one income with children and lots of debt would be very difficult. So that was a big motivator for us. We paid off over $14,000.00 in the first two years of our marriage. However, when our oldest son was born paying off debt took a back seat to our new family life. Then our second son came along and things just continued as they were. We didn’t add in any more debt but we certainly wasn’t paying it off either. However, with wanting to add a third child to the mix and wanting to retire and not have a diet that mainly consist of ALPO or Purina we knew it was time to get back into it. So I guess the motivator to get back to it is simply to add another child to our family and live comfortably without having to worry about money.
I decided to write my blog for several reasons. First as a way to keep myself motivated and accountable. I
wanted needed a place of my own, in a way my blog is my me time. I also wanted to share the ways I have found and continue to find to help other parents deal with the issue of finding balance between what their children need/want and their checkbook.
May from MessyMoney askes, “How do you find balance with your blogging and other obligations?”
Answer: It truly is a balancing act, and one I am still working on perfecting. But it basically comes down to creating a schedule using Google Doc Calendar. Along with blogging, keeping house, caring for my children, and having speech therapy for my youngest son, I also help to take care of my 82 year old grandmother with dementia (keeping house, and taking her to the doctors, etc), and my 84 year old grandmother with some light house keeping, as well as driving her to some of her doctor appointments.
So setting priorities, and keeping a calendar that can be accessed by my husband, myself, and both of my parents which keeps everyone in the loop. I also have a blogging calendar which is separate from my family calendar. I stay up late (it’s 12:22 in the morning here and I only slept about 3 1/2 hours last night as I couldn’t sleep) to blog and just do what I can. I can’t get everything done all the time, but eventually everything does get done. I also have an amazing husband who even though works a lot of 10 and 12 hour days will give me time on the weekend to lock myself in the bedroom and write or do whatever else needs done for the blog. I am currently trying to write ahead so that I have things I can use when life just gets to crazy! :o)
Deb from Debt Debs asks, “Is your husband’s knickname “The Captain”? Did you always want to be a stay at home Mom or did it come to you after trying to manage work and one child at first? What’s your parenting philosophy?”
Answer: There are a few people who call him “Captain”. :o) He always gets a kick out of it.
I always wanted to be a stay at home mom. I always felt like the career path was just “filler” something I may have to do but it would never be my true purpose like mothering is. In my last days if I can look back on my life knowing I made my husband happy, and my son’s have grown into happy, well adjusted, strong men then I will be happy knowing I had the best life I every could have wanted.
I think my parenting philosophy is a more traditional one. I believe in “tough love” when needed, but I never hesitate to tell them they are smart, kind, loved, and good. I believe in a simpler lifestyle, so my boys don’t have and will never get the latest gadget “just because”. My son’s have been in the family garden, helping to weed and plant since they were two. At 4 years old KC is now helping some of our elderly friends with feeding the chickens, collecting eggs, and also helping to feed the horses.
There is a country song that is entitled “Love Like Crazy” which as corny as it may sound really puts into words what I/we want to teach our children. It is simply rely on god, be honest, be strong, be a friend, be hardworking, be kind, be loving, be respectful of yourself and others, and just do your best. We all have shortcomings, and none of us are perfect, but we can always try to be our best.
Natalya from CottageRetreatist asks, “Have you found that you’ve been able to be much more free by talking through your blog than in real life? Also – like me are you glad you’re not really at the FinCon cause you’d probably spend it in a corner trying to find an excuse to go back to your hotel room than go for pizzas!”
Answer: In some ways yes. I’m finding it easier to leave comments and “talk” to people here than I would off the net. However, I am still struggling a bit to find my “blogging voice”. Right now I feel like
a lot most of my posts sound like school papers instead of a conversation with a friend. It’s natural I suppose because most of my writing experience has been in the informative style vs the conversational style that I am trying to switch to.
I would love to go to FinCon, but I would be that chick sitting awkwardly in the corner looking as if I was “glaring” at everyone. I don’t know why but for some reason my face tends to look a little crabby when I’m in a crowded room full of strangers. I want to be social but I have a very hard time doing it. :o)
However, two very social kids I guess I better start learning! :o)
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